Bonus Sober Banter: Quickfire Q&A
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[00:00:05] Introduction and Setup
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[00:00:05] Rachel: Welcome to the test, quick version of Sober Banter. My name is Rachel Casey.
[00:00:10] Colin: My name is Colin Casey.
[00:00:12] Rachel: I am testing out some wireless mics. We were gonna see how the audio quality is, and so I said, why don't we pillow talk an episode, and I'm gonna ask him some.
Questions that are supposed to be, people are 50 50 on. Okay.
[00:00:25] Controversial Questions: Pineapple on Pizza and More
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[00:00:25] Rachel: Which the first one, what question do people go to for being 50 50 on something?
[00:00:32] Colin: What question?
[00:00:33] Rachel: Yeah, there's a question that people are like, either they're for it or they're against it. Abortion? No. What?
[00:00:38] Colin: Oh,
[00:00:39] Rachel: I mean I guess that is but it Pineapple and pizza.
That's a very popular, people are very easy. There was just a whole John Ham of the pineapple on pizza.
[00:00:47] Colin: yeah. I'm sorry, but when you're like,what's the most common 50 50. That's a good one. People
[00:00:52] Rachel: fight about is should you have pineapple on pizza? Okay.
[00:00:55] Colin: Yeah. No, that's a good one. is Die Die Hard a Christmas
[00:00:57] Rachel: movie?
[00:00:58] Colin: Yes.
[00:00:59] Rachel: Okay, [00:01:00] but there are a lot of people that say no. Right?
[00:01:01] Colin: Yeah. There are idiots out there.
[00:01:03] Rachel: what? What are you doing? Do you want us to have people that listen to this podcast? I want
[00:01:09] Colin: smart, intelligent people that are sober to listen,
[00:01:12] Rachel: okay,
[00:01:13] Colin: want to get sober.
[00:01:14] Rapid Fire: Fun and Random Questions
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[00:01:14] Colin: These are just fun. Rapid fire. not necessarily to do with sobriety. Okay.
[00:01:19] Rachel: Gotcha. Okay.
[00:01:20] Relationships and Social Norms
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[00:01:20] Rachel: Can you be friends with your ex?
[00:01:22] Colin: Yes, you can.
[00:01:23] Rachel: Who are you friends with? That's your ex.
[00:01:26] Colin: I'm not
but you said can. You can.
[00:01:29] Rachel: Okay. What
[00:01:30] Colin: you can be, but good God.
[00:01:32] Rachel: I'm
[00:01:32] Colin: right now I'm not friends with any, I haven't talked to any of my exes.
[00:01:35] Rachel: Okay. Does the cereal go before the milk or the milk before the cereal?
[00:01:39] Colin: The cereal goes before the milk. What's psycho is pouring milk first.
[00:01:44] Rachel: There are some people that put the milk and then the cereal.
[00:01:49] Colin: No, you put the cereal in first and then you pour the milk because that way you would know how much milk to put in, so it doesn't just overflow out of [00:02:00] the bowl.
[00:02:00] Rachel: Maybe you do the milk so you don't over pour the cereal.
No,
because I'm just, these are questions that
[00:02:07] Colin: nobody's doing this. There are, people are, this is the problem when you ask ai, AI doesn't know what a real person does. this is
[00:02:14] Rachel: not ai. I looked at these questions and they're from a site, which I will disclose if I choose to.
Okay. Morning or night person?
[00:02:22] Colin: Used to be night, but now I'm kind of morning. I like getting up early when I can.
[00:02:26] Rachel: Phones at the dinner table?
[00:02:28] Colin: No.
[00:02:29] Rachel: Okay. Is multitasking productive or harmful?
[00:02:33] Colin: For me it's harmful.
[00:02:35] Rachel: but
[00:02:35] Colin: it doesn't stop me from doing it.
[00:02:38] Rachel: Pets in the bed?
[00:02:39] Colin: No.
[00:02:39] Rachel: But we do.
Yeah. But I hate
[00:02:41] Colin: it. I would prefer them not. So
[00:02:43] Rachel: you think no animal should be in the bed? if we had a dog, you'd be like not in the bed.
[00:02:47] Colin: Yeah.
[00:02:48] Rachel: What? I've never not had pets in the bed.
[00:02:52] Colin: I don't know what to tell you.
That's probably why we get bad sleep sometimes.
Or you get bad sleep. I sleep great.
[00:02:59] Rachel: Is it [00:03:00] okay to lie if it's to protect someone's feelings?
[00:03:03] Colin: Yeah. I'm protecting your feelings now.
[00:03:05] Rachel: Oh my God.
[00:03:06] Colin: Having a great time.
[00:03:07] Rachel: Is love at first sight a thing?
[00:03:09] Colin: No.
[00:03:10] Rachel: Jesus. See? You did. You're not like
[00:03:13] Colin: there's lust at first sight.
[00:03:15] Rachel: Lusty. Lusty.
[00:03:16] Colin: Yeah.
[00:03:17] Rachel: That's my name.
[00:03:18] Colin: Was your name.
[00:03:19] Rachel: Were you in love with me at first sight?
[00:03:21] Colin: no. I was in lust with you.
[00:03:23] Rachel: You were not even in lust with me.
[00:03:24] Colin: Yeah. You weren't even drinking. You were like, I'm taking a break off wine, but I'm just gonna order it to smell it.
[00:03:30] Rachel: It's like my second day.
[00:03:31] Colin: Yeah.
[00:03:33] Rachel: Not very good.
[00:03:34] Colin: Order to wine to smell.
[00:03:35] Rachel: Should couples share passwords?
[00:03:38] Colin: yeah. I mean they can, we share one, but that's because we get benefits on the target thing.
[00:03:43] Rachel: can people change?
[00:03:44] Colin: Yeah. We used to be addicts and now we're sober addicts. Changed.
[00:03:51] Sobriety and Social Media
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[00:03:51] Rachel: Should kids be allowed on social media?
[00:03:53] Colin: What? A 13 and under? Okay. No,
[00:03:55] Rachel: 13 and up. Sure.
[00:03:58] Colin: With supervision,
[00:04:00] Should billionaires exist? Should it be like a cap to where you can't have,
this is like Logan's run for money and once you hit a billion dollars you gotta go.
yeah, it sucks I guess if, you don't have a billion dollars, but I don't care.
[00:04:17] Rachel: Do you stay friends with someone who's relapsed?
[00:04:21] Colin: yeah, you can, I'm, we've been friends with people that have relapsed, or at least I have. You've been like, I don't need him in my life.
[00:04:28] Rachel: I did not do that.
Or say that you're
[00:04:30] Colin: not allowed to see or talk to him ever again.
[00:04:33] Rachel: Oh my
[00:04:33] Colin: God.
[00:04:34] Rachel: is it okay to be sober but still go to the bars?
[00:04:38] Colin: Yeah, but it also depends. these are all based on yourself. I would like to sometimes even go out to shoot pool or something like that or more.
They have a lot of other stuff you can drink now.
[00:04:51] Rachel: are sober influencers helping or hurting the recovery community? I.
[00:04:55] Colin: as you pointed out, I'm not really in the recovery community because I don't, there you
[00:04:59] Rachel: [00:05:00] are. You're literally a podcaster.
What are you talking about?
[00:05:02] Colin: Oh, I'm a podcaster.
[00:05:04] Rachel: You're a host of sober banter. you're literally a sober,
[00:05:07] Colin: I'm a host.
[00:05:09] Rachel: You are literally a sober influencer.
[00:05:11] Colin: Okay.
[00:05:12] Rachel: Globally,
[00:05:13] Colin: because two days ago I was just this,
[00:05:15] Rachel: no, I didn't post that episode, so no one knows that.
[00:05:18] Colin: Okay. What was the question again?
[00:05:20] Rachel: Exactly. Are sober influencers helping or hurting the recovery community?
[00:05:25] Colin: they're not hurting. I haven't met anyone that was hurting the sober community.
[00:05:30] Rachel: I know. I hate that. The whole reason that they're like with bill W and aa, It's 'cause you don't wanna be the poster child or you end up having a relapse and people are like, oh, the program doesn't work.
But at this point, the program's so big that even if you did say you did AA and you relapsed, people aren't gonna be like, oh, the steps don't work. I think people are now at the point where they're so supportive, they're like, yeah, it's a disease. We get it. Yeah. There's
[00:05:56] Colin: so many other programs out there,
[00:05:59] Rachel: Because that was [00:06:00] the fear was that you say you're doing AA and it's a you thing, you slip. Yeah. But now people see you slip and they're like, oh, clearly it doesn't work. but I feel like even people I've seen slip that are sober influencers, it just gives them another new talking point. But, I don't think it hurts the community. I think it gives it a real life view. Okay. Crocs,
[00:06:27] Colin: what about 'em?
[00:06:28] Rachel: In or out?
[00:06:29] Colin: Never worn a pair. So I guess out.
[00:06:31] Rachel: I haven't either.
[00:06:32] Colin: I hear they're comfy. There's some doctors I know that wear 'em in surgery. so I guess they're comfortable.
[00:06:38] Rachel: Does iced coffee taste better when you're emotionally unstable?
[00:06:42] Colin: What I think anything tastes better. If you're emotionally unstable, get a Dr. Pepper
[00:06:47] Rachel: Does coffee tastes, I don't know.
It's just on a hard day. Does a cold coffee, like when you're super burnt out and like after Evans thrown a tantrum, does that first sip just hit way harder than some of the other days when it's just eh.
Part of the [00:07:00] routine,
[00:07:01] Colin: I guess is
[00:07:02] Rachel: journaling overrated?
[00:07:04] Colin: Yeah.
[00:07:04] Rachel: Oh my God. From someone who doesn't journal.
[00:07:07] Deep Dive: Mental Health and Privacy
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[00:07:07] Rachel: Should therapy be mandatory? Like dental checkups,
[00:07:11] Colin: like a mental
[00:07:12] Rachel: health check-in
[00:07:13] Colin: wouldn't hurt. I wouldn't say it's mandatory.
[00:07:16] Rachel: that would be the whole point is that everyone gets checked because then they would be able to spot it a lot sooner. Like one of the questions I got asked in school was, should AI be able to target people that are having mental health issues by like their Google searches?
Because Google will Get all like the, whatever cookies to have your data or, and target certain ads at you.
Is it wrong that if they can see someone googling, about depression or suicide? Suicidal suicide course? Yeah. No, but seriously, you just pay it and then they're able to find that person and recommend help based ads or be able to reach out and be like, Hey, we, there's help out there.
Or is that [00:08:00] invasive? Where's the line of, or if you think someone's about to blow up a school or something, or they're doing a school shooting stuff, should that be able to be targeted or are you not respecting the privacy of the person?
[00:08:12] Colin: sure. Why not? Because they're already not respecting our privacy when it's I need a new hammock, and then all of a sudden you have Amazon going check out all these hammocks we got.
On all your face. It also
[00:08:25] Rachel: could be confirmation bias though at times. I don't know how to do the difference. Confirmation bias is you see a white car for the first time and then all of a sudden you're driving and you see white cars just way more than you used to.
[00:08:37] Colin: Then you become a white car.
[00:08:38] Rachel: No stop. is burnout just a fancy word for lazy?
[00:08:43] Colin: No.
[00:08:44] Rachel: Okay. Should emotional support animals be allowed everywhere.
[00:08:48] Colin: Everywhere. No. Remember
[00:08:49] Rachel: when Brian got me the emotional support squirrel? Yeah.
[00:08:52] Colin: That's funny.
[00:08:53] Rachel: Can a self help book change your entire life?
[00:08:56] Colin: Sure.
[00:08:57] Rachel: I wish you'd get me one.
[00:08:59] Colin: You have [00:09:00] all of them.
[00:09:01] Rachel: Is it rude?
Like such a line crossed right now. Should you have to pass a vibe check before you can join a group chat,
[00:09:11] Colin: a vibe check
[00:09:13] Rachel: we all know that if you're in a group, there's that one person who's just I. Doesn't read the group or read the line or read it's God dammit, come on, we're in a group chat and you're going outside the group chat vibe.
[00:09:26] Colin: You know what, there should be a vibe check for just about anything anyone does. And you introduce someone into a new group of friends, not just a group chat, but Yeah, you gotta feel some people out before you invite 'em in like a fantasy group or,
[00:09:40] Rachel: that's true. Yeah. Yeah. We've had bad experience. Should grown adults be able to have sleepovers?
[00:09:45] Colin: it's really happens all the time when you're drinking 'cause they just pass out in your house.
That's a sleepover.
[00:09:52] Rachel: Okay.
[00:09:54] Colin: in fact, that's the only kind of adult sleepover I know about is just people too drunk to drive [00:10:00] home.
[00:10:00] Rachel: Jesus. Okay. I want, these are more serious, so I feel like you're not gonna be able to, I'll be serious. There's no way.
[00:10:08] Colin: Gimme a serious one.
[00:10:10] Rachel: how do you stay grounded during the tough times?
[00:10:13] Colin: Good question.
[00:10:14] Rachel: That's how you know a good question's. A good question is they say good question
[00:10:18] Colin: like Nico Harrison during his press conference.
[00:10:21] Rachel: Can you repeat the question?
[00:10:22] Colin: Yeah. how do you stay grown? I think you need to find the little things that bring you joy or help with your stress relievers, whether it's.
Reading, meditating, working out, or any hobbies that you have and start doing those. To try to get your mind off whatever it is. so you can, distract the mind just for a little bit to get you back to center.
[00:10:48] Rachel: What is one fun fact about you that most people do not know?
[00:10:54] Colin: A fun fact about me. I don't know. I once played in a dodge ball tournament and [00:11:00] kicked ass
[00:11:00] Rachel: Ooh,
[00:11:01] Colin: got a medal too.
yeah.
[00:11:03] Philosophical Questions and Harm Reduction
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[00:11:03] Rachel: Are alcoholics victims?
[00:11:06] Colin: No.
[00:11:07] Rachel: Why?
[00:11:08] Colin: Why?
[00:11:08] Rachel: do you think people with Alzheimer's are victims?
[00:11:11] Colin: I'd have to study how Alzheimer's work. Do you think, what do they do? People,
[00:11:15] Rachel: cancer or victims
[00:11:16] Colin: Victim of what?
[00:11:17] Rachel: I don't know. A victim of something. Be,a victim, like the definition would be like something
[00:11:22] Colin: like I think of a victim of someone you know, hate getting robbed crimes.
Yeah. They're a victim. Six crimes. Like I don't think of cancer coming. am I a victim to hair loss?
[00:11:33] Rachel: Yeah. A big victim. Yeah, definitely. I guess it depends on if you think like alcoholism is the disease or someone's a victim of a disease. like someone who has schizophrenia, you're like, you, they can't help it.
They're schizophrenic. Like you say. The same about alcoholics.
[00:11:48] Colin: I bet alcoholics, I guess if you have schizophrenia you can't really control it. Alcoholic you. So you
[00:11:53] Rachel: think someone can con control their alcoholism?
[00:11:55] Colin: I'm controlling it right now.
[00:11:57] Rachel: Yeah. But you had to get to a point, there was a [00:12:00] point where you definitely could not have controlled it, because
[00:12:02] Colin: schizophrenic can get to a point.
[00:12:05] Rachel: yeah. I guess if you found their right meds. Okay. And they're taking their meds. But that would be the same as an alcoholic taking their first drink. All bets are off at that point.
[00:12:14] Colin: Yeah, sure. You wanna be a victim? Be a victim. Play the victim card in life.
[00:12:19] Rachel: Does harm reduction work?
[00:12:21] Colin: I don't know what that means.
That's like
[00:12:23] Rachel: with the Clean Needles program, where they have safe places you can use.
[00:12:27] Colin: Oh, I think they, yeah. That's
[00:12:28] Rachel: harm reduction.
[00:12:29] Colin: I all for that. Give people a good, clean, safe area to get high.
[00:12:36] Rachel: I don't know how I feel about it.
I can go both ways.
[00:12:40] Colin: It's, I feel like it's for people who are so far gone and they're either gonna kill themselves or accidentally kill someone else or spread diseases.
So it's like population control. But you don't
[00:12:55] Rachel: think that they've already done that at that point. So yeah,
[00:12:58] Colin: but you could do more. [00:13:00] I think you're worried about them doing more. You don't
[00:13:03] Rachel: think you're inherit, you're feeding the disease a little bit. Oh, you're
[00:13:05] Colin: definitely feeding the disease.
But you're also stopping the spread too.
[00:13:09] Rachel: The spread of what?
[00:13:10] Colin: Spread of any sort of intravenous blood trans like aids.
[00:13:15] Rachel: Yeah, but again, you shared needles. Those people already have AIDS that you're saying these are for people that are are gone. Not like how much are you really reducing the amount of aids?
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[00:13:22] Colin: cause they're, if they're sharing a needle with someone who doesn't have aids, then that's how AIDS spreads. So if you're giving 'em a place to shoot up, then you're essentially stopping the spread. So places like what San Francisco does this, right? But
[00:13:37] Rachel: there's a lot of people that might have already used a dirty needle, so you don't really know.
Yeah. you're thinking of
[00:13:42] Colin: like the pa think of the future. The future, yeah. So if you're providing clean needles as opposed to having them use dirty needles, like you wanna give them the clean.
[00:13:56] Rachel: Okay.
[00:13:57] Colin: So I think it's a good idea in theory, but it [00:14:00] sucks.
[00:14:00] Rachel: How do you think of God?
[00:14:02] Colin: There's just something that's there. There's just some entity.
[00:14:06] Rachel: What's insanity?
[00:14:07] Colin: I don't know. Someone that's crazy. Or what do they say when you're doing the same thing? Expecting different results. I'm gonna drink less and be amazing and then next month you're like, I'm still gonna drink on the weekend and be, then it's, I'm just gonna drink after.
[00:14:27] Rachel: Okay, that's stuff testing.
[00:14:29] Conclusion and Sign Off
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[00:14:29] Rachel: and maybe we have an episode, maybe we don't. But either way, thanks for listening to Quick Questions with Sober Banter. Goodnight.
[00:14:36] Colin: Bye
